The last few days, Santa Barbara has been blessed with sunshine. My boys have turned into little fish and we have spent the last 48 hours in and out of the pool. I was a swimmer all of my life and I feel the greatest joy being in the water with them, diving, splashing and jumping. It is amazing how the sunshine can make you feel more joyous and content!
As we head into fall and our pregnancy progresses, my excitement is starting to build. On Saturday morning we actually went to the paint store and got a few paint samples for baby sister's room. While the boys picked reds and blues, I think we are going to go with my choices, maybe a light lavender or sage color. The boys know they are going to have a sister. I have told them they have to help dad put together the crib and help me paint her room. They act very excited but the concept is still difficult to grasp. I think most 3 year olds can't comprehend a new baby entering their lives until they enter the door.
We have another doctor's appointment tomorrow. I am so excited to see our surrogate and to hear our baby's heartbeat. I can't say it enough but this whole process has been so profound and such a positive experience. The bond I feel with our surrogate is so incredible and I can never thank her enough for adding baby # 3 to our lives.
Monday, August 16, 2010
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
We are almost 22 weeks! Our surrogate is starting to show more which means our little girl is growing and moving right along. Our surrogate has been out of town for the last few weeks.I can't wait to catch up on our daughter's movement and how our surrogate is feeling.
One interesting thing that I have taken note of is the funny things people say when they don't know what to say. None of it offends me anymore as I have heard some real doosies over the last year. I was recently at a bridal shower and someone I was talking to found out I was using a surrogate. They then asked me if I carried my boys. My reply was, "yes but we are using a surrogate because I had complications." She then asked me specifically, in front of others what my complications were. Not really the best subject matter for a shower. When others find out we are using a surrogate, they immediately ask, "well are your boys yours?" Well of course and so is this baby. Others ask what our surrogate looks like and if the baby will look like her. I then explain that the baby is biologically 100% ours. Even if she wasn't genetically related, she would still be 100% ours. My husband told me has been asked by guys (of course by guys) if using a surrogate means he slept with someone else...that one comes close to taking the cake. Most of the questions and comments are simply out of naivety. I have to admit, I really didn't know a lot about the process when we began. Hopefully our experience is broadening the horizons of many inquisitive minds.
Today was a rather sad day in our household. We found out that our beloved pet lab has cancer. My husband has had Cole since he was a puppy. He is ten years old and you couldn't ask for a better dog. He takes such joy in lounging on the couch eating the boy's scraps and playing in the ocean. We find out more tomorrow so please keep our Colely in your prayers.
On a different note, we have been enjoying summer to the fullest extent. I spent last summer in bed and this summer we can be found at the pool, beach, playground or any other place you would encounter a 3 year old. My boys are almost swimming on their own. They just have to master the breathing. I am hoping swim lessons twice a week will help. I hope to end the summer by taking our dogs one more walks and beach outings. I want to give them more time and energy.
One interesting thing that I have taken note of is the funny things people say when they don't know what to say. None of it offends me anymore as I have heard some real doosies over the last year. I was recently at a bridal shower and someone I was talking to found out I was using a surrogate. They then asked me if I carried my boys. My reply was, "yes but we are using a surrogate because I had complications." She then asked me specifically, in front of others what my complications were. Not really the best subject matter for a shower. When others find out we are using a surrogate, they immediately ask, "well are your boys yours?" Well of course and so is this baby. Others ask what our surrogate looks like and if the baby will look like her. I then explain that the baby is biologically 100% ours. Even if she wasn't genetically related, she would still be 100% ours. My husband told me has been asked by guys (of course by guys) if using a surrogate means he slept with someone else...that one comes close to taking the cake. Most of the questions and comments are simply out of naivety. I have to admit, I really didn't know a lot about the process when we began. Hopefully our experience is broadening the horizons of many inquisitive minds.
Today was a rather sad day in our household. We found out that our beloved pet lab has cancer. My husband has had Cole since he was a puppy. He is ten years old and you couldn't ask for a better dog. He takes such joy in lounging on the couch eating the boy's scraps and playing in the ocean. We find out more tomorrow so please keep our Colely in your prayers.
On a different note, we have been enjoying summer to the fullest extent. I spent last summer in bed and this summer we can be found at the pool, beach, playground or any other place you would encounter a 3 year old. My boys are almost swimming on their own. They just have to master the breathing. I am hoping swim lessons twice a week will help. I hope to end the summer by taking our dogs one more walks and beach outings. I want to give them more time and energy.
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